Dear Crabby, How do you confront an uncomfortable situation?

Dear Crabby,

I need to confront someone in my life about something they did wrong. I am very uncomfortable with this, but I know it’s the right thing to do. Do you have any advice?

Sincerely, Mrs. Confront

Dear Mrs. Confront,

Well yes, I guess I have had a few occasions where regardless of being uncomfortable, I knew something was the right thing to do. Perhaps not the exact situation you are dealing with, but the first one that comes to mind is when they told me I needed to have a colonoscopy. I really didn’t know what this procedure was all about or why I needed it, but apparently due to age, and thanks to some family member who had some issues, I needed to have this done.  They gave me a pamphlet to answer any questions I might have. One line that stuck out said, “Some patients may experience agitation or discomfort.” That always gives a warm and fuzzy feeling to the reader! I then had a consultation with my doctor and he showed me this straightened out clothes hanger with a camera on the end of it. When I asked him where exactly this would be going, he explained that it would be going where the sun doesn’t shine. I don’t know about you, but my plumbing was all made to go one way only!  Any object moving the other way was definitely going to cause “agitation and discomfort!” As I tried to get over the horror and shock of what he had just explained to me, he asked me if I’d like to stay awake and watch all of this on the monitor, or if any of my family might like to sit in and observe. I guess the open jaw and dazed look must have tipped him off, because then he said that I could opt to be put under if necessary. I said that I would definitely prefer to be sedated and that any sort of pill that he could recommend the morning of to take the edge off would also be appreciated.  I ended up going through with it and all went well, although I was definitely agitated and uncomfortable. Well, I  survived it alright and I can say I’m glad I went through with it. Sometimes, something might feel like death or like there is no way we can get through this, but on the other side everything works out just fine.  I, of course, get no sympathy from Mrs. Crabby as she explains how they check her out every year to make sure she is all healthy. I would say that you should follow sound advice, and if you know what the right thing to do is, then you should do it. When it is all over, regardless of how it turns out, you will have the satisfaction of knowing you did the right thing. Besides, maybe it won’t go as badly as you think. Muster up some courage, and get this thing over with. Good luck, and let me know how it turns out.

Sincerely, Dear Crabby

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