Dear Crabby, How do you like your eggs?

Dear Crabby,

My husband and I recently got married and I want to try to make his eggs the way he likes them. But the problem is that I can’t stand the way he likes them, so I find myself making them my way and hoping he will change. Do you think it is possible for people to change, or should I just figure out how to make his eggs his way?

Sincerely, New Wife

Dear New Wife,

I think your new hubby has as good a chance at changing his likes as you do changing yours! I mean why make the guy change when you could just change your likes, right? It’s not that easy, is it? We all like what we like and prefer what we prefer for some reason or another. Maybe we were born that way, maybe we were raised that way, maybe we just want to irritate someone else – whatever the reason, we are all unique. Mrs. Crabby and I have a good friend who has not eaten meat since she was 13 years old. I remember asking her if she was doing it for health reasons, social reasons, or religious reasons. Her answer really shocked me. She said she was doing it because when she was 13, she came home DearCrabbyfrom school and told her parents she was going to give up meat for good. Her father laughed and said, “I’ll bet you won’t last a week!” The rest is history; she will not eat meat ever again. Some may look at your egg dilemma and consider it a marriage issue, but it is not. When it comes to tastes and food preferences, this is a personal issue and has nothing to do with marriage. When people confuse the two, all sorts of things go wrong. For example, you may think if your husband doesn’t like your scrambled eggs that he doesn’t like you. But it may be that your husband never liked scrambled eggs at all. We had another friend that told her husband when they got married that she despised chicken and would not ever eat it. Her husband was surprised and a little let down because he liked to cook and there were a lot of chicken recipes that he made regularly. After a few months, he was running out of ideas for dinner, so he broke down and just made a simple barbeque chicken anyway. His wife ate some and exclaimed that she loved it. He was shocked and told her it was chicken. She then told him that the only chicken her mother made her growing up was a sort of dried out, baked chicken that was rubbery and awful. So you see, sometimes you can take the chance and have them try your favorite dish. After that, if they simply do not share your same tastes, you respect the differences and keep it simple. That’s my two cents.

Sincerely, Dear Crabby

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